Daily Dialogue — December 3, 2015

“I need to say something. Um, it’s no big secret your mom and I are in hell right now, and, uh… Bottom line is, marriage is hard. It’s really fuckin’ hard. Just… just two people slogging through the shit, year after year, getting older, changing. It’s a fucking marathon, okay? So, sometimes, you know, you’re… you’re together so long, that you just… You stop seeing the other person. You just see weird projections of your own junk. Um, instead of talking to each other, you go off the rails and act grubby and make stupid choices, which is what I did, and I feel sick about it because I love you guys, and I love your mom, and that’s the truth. Sometimes you hurt the ones you love the most. I don’t know why. I… You know, if I read more Russian novels, then… Anyway, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for what I did. I hope you’ll forgive me eventually. Thank you.”

— The Kid’s Are All Right (2010), written by Lisa Cholodenko, Stuart Blumberg

The Daily Dialogue theme for the week: Regret, suggested by Pj Woodside. Today’s suggestion by ruthama.

Trivia: Much of the film is based upon co-writer and director Lisa Cholodenko’s relationship with her partner Wendy, who both had a son by a sperm donor. Cholodenko dedicated the film to them.

Dialogue On Dialogue: Commentary by ruthama: “Julianne Moore’s speech in The Kid’s Are AlL Right is a moving piece of dialogue where Jules expresses regret for having had an affair. It feels real and honest without being melodramatic or on the nose.”